Relationships: Developing And Maintaining

Healthy Relationships

According to Merriam-Webster.com, a relationship may be “a state of affairs existing between those having relations or dealings” or “a romantic or passionate attachment.”

Relationships may include those with your family, friends, coworkers, peers, and significant others. They can be healthy or unhealthy. If you’ve grown up experiencing unhealthy relationships, you may not recognize them as unhealthy because they are what’s normal to you. No matter what you’ve been told or shown, you deserve to have healthy, loving relationships.

 

There are many signs of an unhealthy relationship, which include, but are not limited to:

  • Ridiculing or putting the other person down, especially in front of others to cause embarrassment.
  • Communicating poorly or not at all.
  • Losing emotional intimacy.
  • Disengaging. 
  • Behaving passive aggressively.
  • Holding grudges or refusing to forgive.
  • Behaving in a codependent manner.
  • Abusing substances, including drugs and alcohol.
  • Verbally abusing.
    • Using words to control, manipulate, or shame the other person.
    • Yelling, swearing, threatening, blaming, using sarcasm.
  • Physically abusing.
    • Injuring or endangering someone using force.
    • Hitting, biting, scratching, shoving, kicking, using a weapon.
  • Losing respect.
  • Showing little physical affection.
  • Being dishonest or secretive.
  • Behaving jealously or insecurely.
  • Basing the relationship solely on sex.
  • Behaving in a controlling manner or narcissistically.
  • Managing finances poorly.
  • Competing with one another.
  • Lacking boundaries with extended family members.
  • Threatening to leave, generally without good reason.
    • Ex: It’s healthy to threaten to leave and to actually leave a partner who is abusive. It’s not healthy to threaten to leave a partner because they won’t stop hanging out with their friends and only hang out with you.
  • Talking down your goals.
  • Feeling worried when you disagree with the other person.
  • Isolating oneself from other relationships.

 

There are many signs of a healthy relationship, which include, but are not limited to:

  • Respect.
  • Honesty.
  • Support.
  • Trust.
  • Separate identities, still having your own life/identity outside of the relationship.
  • Fairness.
  • Equality.
  • Good, safe communication.
  • Playfulness.
  • Good self-care.
  • Appropriate self-esteem.
  • Express yourself to one another, openly.
  • Take interest in each other’s interests and activities.
  • Have respected boundaries.
  • Shared basic goals and values.
  • Quality time spent together doing mutually enjoyable activities.
  • Contribute equally to the relationship.
  • Empathy.
  • Kindness.
  • Have your own space.
  • Fight fairly and productively.
  • Make decisions together.
  • Find joy, often in simple things like cooking together.
  • Intimacy, friendship and bonding, non-sexual touch.

 

Remember, you deserve to have healthy relationships, regardless of what you’ve previously been taught, told, or shown.

 

If you’re in an abusive relationship and need/want someone to call but aren’t quite sure where to start, you may want to consider the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY).  Click Here To Access Their Website. Please remember that all computer and phone usage may be monitored.

 

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